Comments on: Avoidance Behavior

By: girlstartup

girlstartup — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 07:50:09 +0000

Yes great post.

I too really can see subliminal effects of avoidance behaviour with me. I haven’t got to my root cause yet.

Sometimes I tell myself that avoidance behaviour is happening because in fact I am not meant to be doing the task at hand, but I think there’s more to it than that.
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By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 13:06:46 +0000

Great post Paul! I can’t wait to to hear about your new vision. Exhausting, painful and exciting all at the same time. Thanks for sharing!

By: Brad Paul

Brad Paul — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:14:02 +0000

Great article, Paul. It helped me to recognize a few things that I’ve been wrestling with lately.

The act of avoidance is certainly a clear sign that something is wrong. It’s amazing how many avoidance behaviors we can come up with when our goals are outdated or incongruent with our true self.

Thanks for sharing your story.

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http://www.solotopia.com/
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By: Aida

Aida — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:09:33 +0000

Great Article. Generally when we stall doing something it isn’t out of laziness, it is due to a block. Would you write an article about steps to finding the subconscious block that holds us from achieving certain goals, and then affirmation formatting & steps to re-program our subconsciousness? That would be greatly beneficial, especially since the way you write your affirmations is very specific and helpful!

By: Pamela

Pamela — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:15:32 +0000

How about ~
Responsibility = Control
Control = Responsibility

Habit = The most powerful force n the universe!

Changing your mind changes your habit….and thanks for the reply.Good form~P
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By: Paul Piotrowski

Paul Piotrowski — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:07:19 +0000

@Pamela: Yes, absolutely. I write my affirmations WAY different now than I did before. For example, I would write that one as “I am now making over $xx,xxx/m in an easy and simple way, by doing what I love and enjoy.” or something like that.

By: Paul Piotrowski

Paul Piotrowski — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:05:38 +0000

@Thomas W.: I think the reason I even found that journal was because I stopped thinking that the problem at my business was “lack of action” or “something out there” and started thinking “What if I’m doing this to myself somehow?”

As soon as I started looking inwards for the problem, I started asking myself “Why would I have a limit on my income?”, “Why is the number $3,000/m and not, lets say $3,487/m? or $5,200/m? or $2,000/m for that matter?”, “Was $3k/m some kind of number someone told me I would make in life?” etc.

Once I started asking those kinds of questions I found the journal. I’m pretty sure that if the journal was destroyed for some reason I would have found another path to realizing that it is my own subconscious programming that created this.

I probably would have figured it out much sooner if I asked the question, but instead I kind of assumed I already knew what the problem was. For example, I was thinking “I’m not working hard enough” or “We need more clients” or “It takes time for a business to take off” etc.

It was only after months and months of this happening that I finally realized that it’s not something “out there”.

The thing is that to this day when I talk to people and they have a subconscious block, they believe it’s actually something “out there” that’s stopping them. When they ask me for advice, and I start asking them introspective questions they get annoyed because they think I’m looking in the wrong place. Going through that experience has made it way easier for me to look inside for answers instead of blaming the outside world even when the circumstances are supposedly outside of my control.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:55:39 +0000

Thanks. Great post! Was sent to me by an associate.

Usually for me it means the idea needs to Germinate a bit more?

Also affirmations are best programmed with an ‘or/and more’ clause.
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By: Thomas W.

Thomas W. — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:05:49 +0000

@Paul: I’m wondering what would had happened if that journal somehow had ended up in the garbage truck… Would that ‘reset’ your subconscious and remove the limit? Or would your subconscious mind never allow it to happen, because you programmed it consciously to stick to the goal? Maybe that’s why it’s so hard to throw out old stuff sometimes…
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By: Dave Starr

Dave Starr — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:44:33 +0000

Good that you mentioned this, Paul. I thought at times I was the only one with an “avoidance behavior” problems. Some days I’ll be to busy to get much done on my projects. other days, I’ll have tons of time, yet actually get less done. It’s something that can never be corrected unless recognized and confronted.

The affirmation idea certainly works for other than money. A lot of my readers and friends of mine are folks who came to live in the Philippines, or who desperately want to, but can’t. The only real difference between those who attained their dream and those who are still “wanna bes”?

The one who made the move just sat down and said, “I’m going to do it.” For some it was easy for some hard, but they always succeeded.

The ones who are still ‘sighing’? For years now they have been talking about their ;dream’, with every other sentence starting with the phrase, :I can’t move to the Philippines because _”(just fill in the blank).

Know what? In 10 more years they still won’t succeed, because they have programmed themselves only to find reasons that they can not, rather than resons they can.