Comments on: Deconstructing My Identity

By: Lucy Lopez

Lucy Lopez — Wed, 06 May 2009 08:22:56 +0000

Clearly, the timing of your email update on recent posts is, as with the timing of everything else, perfect! One of the thoughts/realizations I went to bed with last night was that I believed I had no ‘family’. Living away from my family of origin for so many years (having settled abroad) and having children who currently seem to value other things more than spending time with their mum just made me feel as if I have been stripped off all family! But it also prompted me to remember, and not for the first time either, that I am a member of a much larger family, all of life really, and that without my/our learned biases, I would regard each one as closely and dearly as I regard my mum, brothers, sisters and children!

In a sense it was yet another facet of the ‘identity crisis/meltdown’ that I have been going through these last two years, having been homeless for 12 months, having lost my primary source of income, having moved out of old social circles and only recently establishing new ones and, of course, the ongoing examination and abandonment/replacement of old beliefs…it’s all been a gradual, sometimes painful, stripping away of ‘how I have been’, which really is, ‘how I have learned to be’.

But my true identity…I don’t think that has ever changed. Rather, I have become more aware…of what lies behind, under, beyond the facade we call ‘I’, or ‘my personality’. It’s liberating even though the pain of separation from all that has been familiar and comfortable (even when these have really been self-defeating/limiting) has sometimes been close to unbearable!

It’s necessary if we are to evolve spiritually. It is about coming to terms with who we truly are. I wish you the enlightenment (it really does ‘lighten’ us…perhaps close to the weightlessness of pure being/light!) and liberation that this ‘deconstruction’ offers

By: Paul Piotrowski

Paul Piotrowski — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 09:08:05 +0000

@Dr. Nima: Yup. I’ve had to re-think pretty much every belief I have about everything. I’ve had strange food cravings, headaches, mood swings and all kinds of other weird “release” symptoms, but it’s all good. I’m loving the transformation.

I’ve gone through a few of these in my life and the growth and changes that happen after the transformation is complete are amazing.

One year from now I’m not even going to recognize my life. The stuff I’ve learned since meeting you has been mind-blowing to say it politely. I can’t wait to see where we take all this in the next 12 months.

By: Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 08:19:45 +0000

Thanks for the honesty Paul. You and I both know that in order to have a transformation, you need to have an identity crisis.
If we all look back on our lives and see how these moments of identity crisis, whether sudden or gradual, have been key moments that have been the catalyst for a massive change.
Look back one year from now and you’ll see some amazing realizations. I’m sure I’m going to do the same.
I’m grateful to be joining in the journey with you and I embrace the change as we continue our “bro-mance” together.