Where Are You Stuck?
As most of you have probably realized by now, my posting frequency on this Blog has slowed down since launching my Blog over at FitnessHealthAndHealing.com. I am currently on Week 3 of the P90X Extreme Home Fitness program and I’m really enjoying it a lot. I post daily updates on my fitness Blog documenting my journey to get back into shape and showing exactly what I’m eating every day.
Since starting the program I am feeling a lot more happy and fulfilled, a lot more calm and relaxed and a lot less stressed. Following an extreme program like P90X is no easy task, especially when it comes to establishing the proper daily habits of preparing your meals and eating healthy, buying groceries on a regular basis to make sure you have everything in the fridge that you may need to prepare meals, etc. I’m developing the discipline muscles to be able to sustain this type of lifestyle indefinitely so I have devoted a lot of my energy into that area of life in the recent weeks.
One of the benefits of doing this is that my thinking has gotten a lot clearer lately and my intuition has been sharpened. I would love to help you guys out in pursuing your dream of becoming Inspired Money Makers, so I’m putting this post out there to get some feedback from you as to where exactly you’re stuck in your journey. The best way I can help you guys is if you share with me what challenges you’re running into at the moment.
Do you know what you love to do yet?
Are you struggling with ways to make your first dollar doing what you love?
Are you making money doing what you love, but only in small quantities and feel “stuck”?
Are there external circumstances that keep slowing you down, or have completely halted your efforts altogether?
Do you have too many project ideas, but no way to pick which one to go with?
Are you making progress but moving way too slow due to time management issues?
Are you completely paralized not knowing what to do?
Why aren’t you making $2,500 or $5,000 or $25,000/month doing what you love?
I’d love to hear what’s stopping you guys, and where you’re getting stuck. It will help me to zero in and focus on some issues that will hopefully help you out.
Don’t sit on the sidelines. Take the time to leave a quick comment and let me know where you’re stuck.
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Hi Paul,
I know exactly what i want to do. I know I can succeed at it. In fact, the more sure I am the harder I find it to actually do it. It must be fear of something and self sabotage. Its a catch22 trying to overcome the block, I can’t get rid of my boomerang (mind).
Dom
@paul: I guess take some kind of action, whatever action would be required to succeed at whatever I was presently trying to accomplish. It is almost as if i don’t want to excell at whatever i decide is important to me. Maybe it is a type of anxiety or obsessive compulsive disorder.
Unfortunately, I am facing most of the problems you list above. Right now I have to work in my currently company because the things I love to do don’t make me enough money.
As for my current project, It is hard to write good content for my blog and get enough traffic to it.
And also I have many other project ideas but don’t know how to start. lol….
wow, all the problems Paul! I know I need to choose one project and stay with it until I am successful, just as you said in your great ebook: the exponential growth needs time to get results. But sometimes I feel very hard to do the INPUT
Thanks for your ebook and it gave me the motivation to continue my project. And you will be more appreciated if you can provider me more suggestion
@Paul: I’ve finally gotten into the habit of spending 1 to 2 hours of quiet time alone each night, but the next thing I face is, that often I’m all emotional about something external, that has nothing whatsoever to do with me creating and delivering value. I just get so emotional tied up, that it’s nearly impossible for me to even do 5 minutes of work on my own. Sometimes I sit and stare at my feet, or cry, or curse for 55 minutes and then work for 5 minutes in the end. Then I’m really pissed for not having done anything to build momentum that night
(And then I get even more pissed off because I’ve named my site HAPPYfarming.com LOL)
It’s like there’s a lot of energy trapped inside me that’s preventing me from moving forward. Maybe I’m resisting feeling that energy in order to let it go, I don’t know.
I think my most hardest part is marketing and getting the website up to a high number of daily visits or RSS readers.
Nice website and I also like your fitness site, I’ve also subscribed to your RSS feed. Good luck. I’m sure it will go great. There’s a ton of traffic in fitness niche.
Hi Paul,
Glad to hear you’re doing well and enjoying your new workout and diet regime. It’s hard to recall a time when discipline and determination didn’t yield results. Best of luck as you continue!
@Paul Morales: Thanks Paul. There is a tonne of targeted traffic in almost any niche. The hard part is finding out what their “Problems” are and how to offer “Solutions” to those problems. If you can do that, it’s not hard to get RSS subscribers and traffic.
@Melissa: Thanks. When discipline and determination don’t yield results, it’s probably because you’re self-sabotaging your success. Outside of that, they usually do.
I have just discovered your site. So far I find it very informative. Honestly I have just discovered this whole subculture of on line entrepreneurship. I honestly didnt use my computer other than for emails and to check out sites of interest. I am in my late 30′s and have not accomplished in my life what I thought let alone fully lived the way I deserve. Needless to say my financial status is low to no existing. Recently I have been taking business classes at a community college to learn what it takes to start and run a business. Some how I have come across similar sights, blogs etc, and I feel very charged about learning as much as I can and putting it to action. Eventually I will provide the quality of life for my son and myself that we deserve. If anybody has any advice or insight I would very much appreciate it. Thank you. You will be seeing more of me in the future. Thank you.
We are having trouble getting more quality traffic to our site- not just hits. The hits aren’t worth much unless our customers are buying. Our adwords account goes up and down, sometimes we do well with sales, and then others- nothing for days, even though the hit rate is the same on days we sell more. We have spent a lot of time writing content and SEO stuff (which we’ve managed ourselves). Can you offer any suggestions. We don’t have a blog or anything for this site either as we didn’t think it would be suitable for this type of site, what do you think? We are also thinking of getting some sponsored links on our top hit ezines, most readers read it, many are from overseas and don’t buy, so we thought what the hey and try and get some adwords payed to us. Your site is really informative by the way, will keep reading.
My goal is to make money from developing semi-casual Flash-based games. I plan to have a site with some free games (play them on site, not by downloading), some pay-to-download games for about $20, some free tutorials to help people to make their own games, possibly a developer’s blog, and some advertising so that I’ll make money off the free stuff.
My problem is a combination of these circumstances:
1) I need at least one fun game (preferably more) finished before I can start making money
2) I don’t have much time/energy to work on the games much because I have a full-time job
3) If I quit my job and threw myself into the games full-time, it’d still take a long time to finish a game and thus be a while, and I wouldn’t be able
4) My plan was to save up (war chest) and quit later, but things keep sabatoging the savings!
But right now I have $2000, my employer has cut down my pay, and I have to move back in with my mom anyway. So I think I’m going to take the self-employment plunge any day now! So I guess what I need help on is on time management, discipline, getting site traffic, and methods to monetize web site that doesn’t make users pay for anything.
Hi Paul:
I would like to have ads display on the sidebar and make extra money there but need your help to get started. Please email me.
Thanks for your time!
Paula
Hi Paul
Feedback as to what is stopping me from doing what I like: I would like to be a writer. In fact, I was writing a lot, all sorts, no particular genre, order or anything. I’ve started about 50 books like that, and have only finished 2 of them. I never wanted to write to make money, never thought of getting published, I just wrote because I liked to write. And read myself! One day, inevitably, I had to tell someone. They really pushed me to publish, tried to convince me that I could be one of those famous writers. Or maybe not, but at least I would have tried. I never managed to make them understand that I considered my writing private, a way to express myself that I was not ready to share with anyone else.
The whole idea was left aside as I went through life, and its good and bad times, and then I found myself out of a job for almost a year. I had some savings, I signed to do a course to give me more qualifications to get a better job, but it was only a couple of hours a day. So the idea of writing a novel (or any kind of book) sprung up again. I sat down in front of my computer and started looking through my old writing to see if there was anything I fancied re-writing, putting into a form decent enough to send to a publisher. I started on one of them, then when I was doing some research, I got distracted, had another idea, then another, and the year passed, and I wrote nothing.
I keep doing the following:
1) get distracted from my main aim.
2) starting a story, feeling really good with it, then getting bored of it
3) procrastinating, doing endless research, reading endless tips and advice on everything, and not writing
4) now that I live with my partner, have a full time job and go to the gym regularly, I cannot find the time. I have time, but I want to spend it with him. The trouble is we end up watching TV together, or sometimes he does something, and I cannot be bothered to write.
5) I know if I start writing, he will come over and interrupt me for one reason or another. Not on purpose, not to be mean. But because, it’s dinner time, or we need to sort out something together, or he has had an idea about a holiday we could take. I need time on my own when he is not around, but that is not possible because we work the same hours. I also feel guilty if I go off to do my writing, and do not spend this time with him. It’s all in my head, I know he would not mind.
6) I have been thinking about leaving my job to write. I have discussed it with my partner since we would struggle without my outcome. We could still do ok, but he is my partner, not my dad, he has no duty to me to pay for me if I decide to give up work. I feel that it is unfair to ask him to do that. Also, he says “what if you write, and never make a buck out of it. You have more chances not to be published than to be.” he likes statistics. I refuse to believe what he says, because although he is probably right, there are chances that I might get published. And I need some hope!
Still, I feel like I’m chasing my own tail, and really putting myself in situations in which I cannot write. If I wrote 1 hour each evening, that would be better than now. I cannot seem to get to that. I always end up too tired, too stressed, too lazy to move away from the TV, or there is housework to do, something, anything. And when I finally get my act together and do some writing, I find it rubbish. I think this is boring, even I don’t like it! Why? I used to write good stories, at least good enough for me to enjoy!
I think one reason is that I have read so much advice that it has killed a lot of of my creativity. Or maybe this is just another excuse? ….
1) obviously, worried that w
Sandy, I think Paul is right about the values and mission statement. Maybe sit down and REALLY look at your priorities. It is wonderful to be in a relationship, but it can be tricky when trying to balance personal passions and a boy friend or girlfriend. How long have you been with this person? Do they motivate, encourage and support your pursuit. If so are they only doing it when it serves them? You say he interrupts you when you start to write, there maybe some sub-conscience issue that propels him to do so. (jealousy, insecurity?) Are you only seeing what you want to see in this relationship? Maybe he is actually draining you of creativity. His comment on you not making money doesnt sound very supportive. I can ask this because as a musician I have dealt with such matters in relationships. I’m not an aspiring rock star, I am a working musician, and the realities of the profession can be tough, especially for the other person who may not actually understand what it takes and what you deal with. One might look at their own self image. Depression, lack of positive self image and worth, belief and faith in ones self or lack of, even maybe something such as ADD might be factors. I have dealt with and looked at/ explored them all. I finally saw my 8 year relationship clearly and as painful as it was, parted ways ( there were other factors besides my own). What is the quality of your life worth to you? Be you. Be real, even if for some reason it is uncomfortable. Be honest even if it’s brutal. Look in the mirror and say out loud ” I love you”! How does it feel? Having gone through something similar to what you are experiencing now and doing that type of reflection and introspection may help. For me, it totally sucked seeing what I didnt want to, and admitting what I was uncomfortable with, and yes PAINFUL. I’m soo glad I did! My life IS awesome, and the transformation was and still is motivating, inspiring, fulfilling and very much rewarding. You could honestly, and I do mean HONESTLY write out the real pros and cons of your relationship on paper. If one out weighs the other than that may be a tool to help you with what to do next. No matter what the perceived out come, it will work out.
Paul- You’re right in regards to growing and being in relationships. I never stated or encouraged the ending of a relationship. If you re-read my last sentence, you may see that. I tried to encourage an honest assessment of where she is or is not with respect to herself and what is going on in the relationship. If after looking at things objectively and seeing that it is worth working out, than all the better. The other side is that if it means parting ways, than know that it is what would be best as well. Either way, sometimes an honest assessment is not a comfortable thing to put one self through even though it may be best, whether out of fear (for what ever reason) of what they may find out or other perceived anxiety. I guess I was trying to encourage honesty and getting clear objective insight in regards to ones situation, and to do so courageously. I apologize if my statements were not clear and misconstrued.
@Dom: Would you care to share a bit more specific examples or more info? What exactly are you finding “hard” to do? Take some kind of action? Start a business? Learn something? Develop a habit? What is it that you’re trying to do?
@Sandy: It sounds like you need to get clear on your current values and mission statement. Perhaps some one-on-one coaching would help?
Something to think about.
@Matt: A lot of people use their spouse and kids as an excuse not to pursue their true passion in life. What are you teaching your kids then? Don’t do what you really want to do in life, because it may create a bit of temporary discomfort? Will your spouse really respect you for long if you don’t have the guts to go after what you want?
These are questions we all have to answer for ourselves. Often times it’s about picking from two options – and both require you to get out of comfort and “happiness” for a temporary period of time to grow. Creating challenge in your relationship with anyone doesn’t mean the relationship has to end… in fact, in a lot of cases it’s exactly what’s required in order for you both to grow and strengthen the relationship even more.