Complaining and The Law of Attraction

Man this new “Money and the Law of Attraction” book by Esther Hicks has really been helping to make some major shifts in my life.  I’m no newcomer to the Law of Attraction either, having been intimately utilizing it consciously since around 2002 and talking to people about it long before “The Secret” ever came out.

However, even though I *know* Law of Attraction, sometimes it’s just really funny how we continue to do silly things even though we know better.  The one thing that this book has really helped me with is realizing just how unproductive complaining is.  Now, I’m not much of a complainer.  I’m normally a very positive person, and I don’t really complain about much.  But there are a few things and people in my life that for whatever reason I’ve been complaining about lately.

Not like it’s a major thing that I do non-stop, but you know how you might have someone in your life that’s always late and so you always end up talking to someone about how they’re always late while you wait for them?  Or the person that’s always negative, no matter what happens in life, always looking at the negative side of the coin?  Or the person that is super cheap about everything?  I think you know what I mean.  We all have these characters in our lives.

Well, I was reading the book and it really made me realize that by talking about these “flaws” that these people have, all I’m doing is attracting more of that flaw into my life.  It’s kind of like people who complain about bad drivers always seem to be surrounded by bad drivers!  I hardly ever notice any “bad drivers” out there and it seems like they don’t follow me around at all.

However, the problem goes deeper.  If you complain about people who always complain about people, you will attract more people like that as well!  So I’ve been doing a little experiment over the last two weeks.  I’ve consciously started to become a lot more aware of anything I say that’s “negative” about a person or group of people or a situation.  In fact, I’ve actually started to consciously focus on the positive aspects of people and situations.

For example, when a waiter or waitress at a restaurant does something great like bringing me a refill without me having to ask for it, I consciously think to myself “What an awesome waiter/waitress this person is.” or something like that.  When they do something like forget to bring me something, I just ask again and forget about their “mistake” instantly not dwelling on it at all.  I make it a point to over emphasize in my mind the positive aspects of people.

I’ve been doing this “experiment” for about two weeks now and I wanted to see what Law of Attraction would do in this kind of situation.  For example, if I stopped talking about how negative people are, would negative people stop hanging around me?  Or what would happen?

So far, I’ve been absolutely amazed with the results.  Something unexpected has happened.  The people themselves seemed to have changed.  It’s not like they stopped being in my life.  They just seemed to have changed.  It’s so bizarre.  I would even say that some of the behaviour of these people is “out of character”, almost like they’ve “changed” as soon as I changed my opinion of them.

Now I’m not talking about massive changes where someone who has smoked for 30 years all of a sudden stops smoking instantly the day you decide not to complain about their smoking.  What I’m talking about is them making subtle changes, like starting to only smoke 5 cigarettes a day instead of 6.  Or someone who is always super negative actually saying something positive about something all of a sudden.  Or driving the whole way home from work without being surrounded by “bad drivers”.  Or someone who’s always late still being a bit late, but calling you ahead to let you know (which they’ve never done before).

Try it out.  Go on a “complaining fast” for a while and even if it’s just towards a few people in your life, try not complaining or even thinking anything negative about them or their silly little habits for a few weeks and see what happens.  Don’t expect to be perfect at it from day one.  I still catch myself all the time slipping back into the habit of pointing out someone’s “bad habits”, but at least now I’ve been consiously becoming more aware of it and stopping myself.

Another thing you’ll want to stop complaining about is your “Non-Inspired” job or career if you’re in one.  If you’re trying to make money doing what you love, complaining about the fact that you hate what you’re doing right now is NOT going to attract it to you.  That doesn’t mean you “settle” for doing something you hate.  All I’m saying is that you spend all your energy on what you DO want, instead of complaining about what you DON’T want.  Try it out for just a few weeks…it might really surprise you to see what happens.

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