Comments on: 10 Reasons to Keep Your Goals to Yourself

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By: Worried others might read my goals...

Worried others might read my goals... — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 15:26:31 +0000

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By: Paul Piotrowski

Paul Piotrowski — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 16:18:50 +0000

@bobba_barley: Yup, exactly! Negatrons have no ideas of their own, but they just bash everyone else’s.

By: bobba_barley

bobba_barley — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 13:04:24 +0000

Very funny but true post! My landlord is a total negatron. Seriously, I made $50 out of some bead necklaces, bracelets, etc. I found around the house and I had intended to make my own and sell even more. I told Negatron Landlord, he snorted “Yeah, right!”… and it was a very good thing I had already made that $50, otherwise I’m pretty sure I would of never of done it then.

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 16:13:46 +0000

This is very true, especially the last one: #10!

As you know, Paul, I’m a musician, and back then when I was 17 we were about to release our first record. My mother always kept telling me that I’ll never do this and everytime the record release was delayed, she kept on talking about how this is all bullshit and it will never work and so on…
Well, finally, half a year later, the record really was released (and I always knew that, of course) and guess what she did? She told EVERYONE she knew “hey, my son released a record!!”, bragging around with MY great achievement… typical

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 02:44:04 +0000

Totally agree with you, when it comes to business goals at least. I’ve found that when your goals are health or weight loss based letting others know can be more helpful than harmful, but again it all depends on the company that you keep.

By: Simon Stapleton

Simon Stapleton — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 12:50:42 +0000

You know Paul this post struck a chord with me. I’ve been working on a number of goals and haven’t shared them with many people so far, including the development of my own blog (despite the fact it carries my name!) and I’d been wondering why. I thought it unusual and perhaps even wrong that I wasn’t telling all my friends and family. But now I know why – I do feel that I know many people who fit the above categories. I must mix with a lot of insecure people. But there are a number of people I have shared them with and I have received some great support. I think I have instincively rooted out the people who I know will not give me the support and encouragement I need, and approach only those who will.

By: Paul Piotrowski

Paul Piotrowski — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:57:36 +0000

@Dorina: There’s a difference between sharing your goals with others, and getting feedback on specific action steps.

For example, lets say you set a goal to make money by blogging. I would advise not sharing that with “negative” people to get some “feedback”. Why? Because, chances are that they have no clue about the topic anyways. So, instead you set that goal and keep it to yourself.

Then, you seek advice from people who DO know what they’re talking about regarding how to go about setting up a Blog, but there you are not talking to them to determine whether or not you SHOULD or SHOULD NOT start a Blog, you are approaching them with the assumption that you’ve already made that decision.

Do you know what I mean?

Instead of asking your “negative” friend “Should I start my own business?” you make that decision yourself and you set that goal, and then if you want to do research and get some coaching / mentoring / feedback / advice etc. you approach someone who has business experience and you ask them for best practices, tips etc.

Hmmm… maybe I should write an article to clear this up.

By: Bart

Bart — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:52:12 +0000

Another great post Paul, keep them coming!

I agree with this post, only let people who share your intentions or interest know about your blog goals as others will try to feed you negative and false ideas and tell you your wasting your time, when really you know your heading toward success.

By: Dorina

Dorina — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 21:18:34 +0000

I think sometimes one should keep an open ear also to diverging opinions. After all, life would be too boring if we all agree on everything. Maybe some of the “attacks” reveal some hidden risks for the plan. The arguments though must be considered carefully. In the software world people talk about “Risk Management”, this is a sort of Plan B.